Services: Couples Therapy

Relationships can be complicated. Therapy doesn't have to be.

A stable marriage, or long term partnership, is built on love and trust

Do you feel sometimes you can’t talk openly to your partner?

Do you argue over and over in hurtful and unconstructive ways?  Can you not see a way out of your troubled, estranged situation?  Has there been some type of betrayal or something you cannot seem to move past?  Do you have family challenges that are straining your couple relationship in ways you had never anticipated? 

Emotions and life events over time can amplify stress in any marriage, and uncovering perhaps unmet needs and unspoken resentments can help bring you closer and strengthen your bond.  

Collaboration

We’ll collaboratively work with you both to better manage these ups and downs. 

Equality

​You and your partner will be given equal consideration throughout our counselling sessions.

Perspective

We’ll help you identify what’s valuable at this time in your life and to focus on what matters most. 

Our specialized couple therapists

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is best known as the gold standard in couple therapy, a tested and proven intervention, but it is also used to address individual depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress. It’s also referred to as Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), and to help repair family bonds, Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT). 

​This model operationalizes the principles of attachment science using non-blaming experiential and relational science to focus on and improve your experience in your relationship. Our team works within an affirming, attuned and safe relational framework. We are neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ affirming. 

What to expect

Initial Steps in Couples Therapy

During the first session, we’ll sit down and get to know the two of you to gain a better understanding of the problems plaguing your relationship and your individual viewpoints on it being repaired.  We’ll also discuss the reasoning behind your reaching out to us and whether or not you have both considered continued counselling sessions as a means of mending any damage.  

​There are some positive indicators you should move forward with couples therapy, and also some contraindications to couples therapy.  We will assess this within one to two sessions to determine whether we should continue with couples therapy, or whether you would be better served by continuing with individual support, until we can resume the couple focus. 

Who should do couples therapy?

​A 2011 journal article in the Archives of Psychiatry and Psychotherapy[1], outlined the following indications for engaging in couple therapy:

Reference: [1]  Wolska, M. (2011). Marital Therapy/Couples Therapy: Indications and Contraindications. Archives of Psychiatry & Psychotherapy; September 2011, Vol. 13 Issue 3, p. 57.

When might we need individual therapy first?

Couples therapy is generally contraindicated, or not recommended in the short term, for those conditions in which there is an under-control of emotion; for example, an unmanaged panic disorder or impulse disorder, or possibly even more severely unmanaged adult ADHD. ​

Specific other contraindications for couple therapy also include:

3 Steps to your couples therapy plan

When you work with ​us, ​there are 3 pivotal steps we take with you to get your relationship back to where you want it.

During the first session, we’ll sit down and get to know the two of you to gain a better understanding of the problems plaguing your relationship and your individual viewpoints on it being repaired.  We’ll also discuss the reasoning behind your reaching out to us and whether or not you have both considered continued counselling sessions as a means of mending any damage.  

​There are some positive indicators you should move forward with couples therapy, and also some contraindications to couples therapy.  We will assess this within one to two sessions to determine whether we should continue with couples therapy, or whether you would be better served by continuing with individual support, until we can resume the couple focus. 

To effectively deliver on these three steps, we practice with collaborative treatment approaches tailored to you, your values and goals.

1. We make sense of your situation and get to the heart of the matter.

 We will carefully listen to determine your most important needs and together, develop specific goals and outcomes for your couple therapy. We will also help you both assess whether couples therapy is the right step at this time, for you both.

2. We'll work on resolving emotions and enhance emotional connectivity between partners

We will identify and work through unresolved emotions such as anger, guilt, resentment and facilitate a positive shift of emotional experiences and responsiveness between partners.

2. We focus on building solutions, trust, and connection in your relationship

We will collaboratively help you create solutions that work for you both, to constructively communicate their needs, wants and expectations, to deepen trust and connection in your relationship.

Beyond Traditional Therapy

Addressing ADHD in Your Relationship

Traditional couples therapy might fall short of both assessing and meeting the needs of a couple who may or may not know that ADHD is what is underpinning their difficulties.  

Dig A Little Deeper offers tailored ADHD couples therapy to address the assessment and presence of ADHD in a romantic relationship, so you can finally get back to that connection and happiness you once had. 

Read more on the Dig Deeper Blog